When a Home Becomes a House

Lets try to finish this saga...the one where the couple came back a second time and were measuring EVERYTHING!  Just a few days passed (five) and one evening the phone rang.  It was our Realtor telling us that "they were not in a hurry but were keeping us on their list."  And so it was.

Now since I, too, am making lists, I understand the concept that when looking for real estate, one has to take a lot of things into consideration.  So, with that phone call, I decided to leave for Connecticut and do some searching for myself...literally, that is.  You see, the Pres and I filled for legal separation a while back.

It was/is not a rash decision.  It was something that has been discussed for a very, very long time.  Relocating together to Connecticut would only, in essence, transfer the problem.  Quite honestly, I am tired of being a squaw following meekly behind the Chief.  People who really, really know me, know how independent I am and what it means to me.  The Pres knows that as well.  We plan on remianing friends and both plan to relocate to Connecticut...just to different places, as our wants and needs differ greatly. 

I am soical by nature and love people...the Pres, not so much.
I want a smaller home and yard to maintain giving me more freedom to enjoy life...the Pres wants another Ponderosa.
I want to learn to Kayak...the Pres, no.
I want to bicycle leisurely on country roads...the Pres, no.
I want to see the kids and the grandkids far more than he does.

Now a few of my close, close friends have suggested to me that I need a friend to do those things with.  I guess I could do that becasue, as it stands now, I live alone and have lived alone for my enitre eight years here in the Hollow.  That wasn't the plan.  However, the plan never happened and quite honestly, I wanited eight years.  There is no we and hasn't been a we for many, many years.  I know you're probably sad and have many questions, but, trust me, since the decision has been made, I feel like such a burden has been lifted from my shoulders.  I am finally sleeping soundly!

Finally, I know I've been missing for a few days and haven't been able to blog with you however, my reasons are totally valid.  First, I've been in Connecticut since Saturday.  Second, I haven't had access to regualr use of the internet.  Third, I'm bushed...pooped...and exhausted when I come home at the end of the day after driving around, taking notes, running figures, etc.

But, don't you worry...I'll get back into the swing of things especially when I find A Quiet Corner...:)


Anonymous said…
Life just never stands still does it...always moving..always changing..always challenging us. I wish you all the best as you head down new roads searching for your quiet corner.
Chatty Crone said…
I appreciate and value your honesty - not many women can do that so out in the open. I wish you a great new life! And sometimes it is okay to be alone and breathe!
TexWisGirl said…
well, i'm terribly sorry to hear this, but at the same time wish both of you a fresh start at the rest of your lives... good luck, jp, at finding your new HOME.
I'm sorry to hear about that, JP. But I hope that this new opportunity will be a wonderful, fresh start for you!
I am so proud of you. Life is too short to be unhappy. You are not the type of person to ever be "alone". There is always someone to do something with. The last nine years of my life being "alone" have been fabulous. We are not squaws or doormats. This is going to be so exciting for you as well as us. Let the fun begin!
gld said…
JP, I knew something was up.....just felt it in my bones.

Dear heart, you are such a strong person. I do admire your courage and openness. Those are qualities sadly lacking in me.

I wish all the best for you in this new chapter in your life. You can now choose and live your life as you want. That represents freedom!
Becky said…
Im very new to your blog,but nevertheless sending you all my best wishes and prayers for happiness to follow wherever you go.I have been a young widow for 9 yrs.Its been a wonderful 9 yrs.I must say I have changed all for the better.Sometimes God knows more whats best for us than we do.
I've noticed you've not been as chipper the past year or so. You deserve happiness, JP. I hope that all these changes you're making will bring you much of it! Have fun in CT :-)
Nancy C said…
JP -- I'm always saddened when a relationship cannot continue, but I am happy for you that you are now on a happier path.

As far as having a "friend" to do things with... please try to enjoy your new freedom before acquiring a new ball and chain. Sounds harsh, but I'm just sayin'.

Good luck on your house hunting.
Jill said…
As one that is divorced, I never wish it on anyone. However, you seem to have thought this out long and hard so I wish you much luck in finding whatever makes you happy.
Tiggeriffic said…
As I'm reading this I wish I had your courage.. I think my husband is the Pres. twin brother.
We have been married for 50 years and since he has retired now for 5 years , life is just not the same.
I have been thinking of you often and my life is so busy right now with having each (3) grandchildren taking turns visiting me in July.
Have a great day and ta ta for now from Iowa:)
Angela said…
My parents divorced when I was 25. It was very hard on us all but I do believe it was for the best. So I understand. I do hope that you can find a great new place to live at that is full of new adventures for you and your pups!

well...here i am...going backwards...as usual! the post i read which was newer than this one...sounds as if you 2 are planning to move to CT together? same place? try to make things work?

whatever you decide to do...go with your gut feeling...your instinct...your heart...

be happy!
Doris Sturm said…
That header photo of your home is so idyllic and I wish I could live there (if only I had the money) and run a dog rescue place :-)

Maybe in my next life time - good luck with the move!

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